We all want our children to grow into adults capable of making healthy choices about their lives.
In order to be able to make these choices they need to be able to make mistakes.
When we get something wrong we learn and we also deepen our understanding and our character.
In our lives we will make thousands of mistakes, it is how we deal with them that is the vital element.
We want our children to look at their mistakes as an opportunity not an adversity.
In order for our children to be able to do this we need to provide a safe environment where mistakes are not punished, seen as an embarrassment, ridiculed or fixed by others.
In a Q&A session with ‘Your Teen Magazine’ author and educator Julie Lythcott-Haims states
‘Childhood itself can provide much of the teaching and learning that humans have always needed….
…We want children to feel competent because they have skills they learned because they tried and failed, and tried and failed, and tried again – and succeeded…We should take a step back so our kids can step forward, and blossom into the humans they deserve the chance to be.’
In our world today we rush in too quickly to help our children and fix their problems. We want our children to grow into adults who can fend for themselves, but they will find this increasingly difficult without practise.
To enable our children to grow in capability and character we need to provide a safe environment where decisions, problems and mistakes can be spoken about honestly.
We need to provide an environment where we can role model how to solve our problems and how we positively view our mistakes, talking about what we learnt.
We need to provide an environment where our children get the opportunity to make and fix their own mistakes.
If we equip our children with the skills and safe environment needed to make and fix their own mistakes in childhood, they will be better equipped to fix the larger decisions and mistakes they will face in adulthood.
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