“Does your child do the right thing in the world, even when no one is looking or grading them?” Julie Lythcott-Haims
This is a good question isn’t it?
It is what we want isn’t it?
We want our children to become adults who do the ‘right’ thing even when no one is watching.
But what is right?
To me ‘right’ isn’t my children doing exactly what I tell them at all times.
To me ‘right’ isn’t excelling at all exams and going to university to get a well paid job.
To me ‘right’ isn’t partaking in a number of extracurricular clubs and social activities to increase popularity or skill sets.
To me ‘right’ is kindness; kindness to themselves and kindness to others. The world can seem a less intimidating place when we are kind.
To me ’right’ is knowing themselves and figuring out what they are good at, what matters to them and finding a path accordingly.
To me ‘right’ is loving themselves and loving others as this will probably be the most valued element in their lives.
When helping children grow I feel the most important factor we should focus on is their character.
With a kind world view mistakes can be made, learning can happen and relationships can develop.
As stated by educator Julie Lythcott-Haims
‘We want children to know how to be kind to other humans because doors of opportunity open when we can just be kind to others.’
But what do we mean to be kind?
Confucius the ancient Chinese philosopher is credited with the earliest idea of
Do not treat others in ways that you would not like to be treated
This Golden Rule is good to keep in mind when we think about kindness and compassion.
We want our children to think about others and treat them in a way that would make life better for them both; for all.
Do your little bit of good where you are; its those little bits of good put together that overwhelm the world. Desmond Tutu